Once upon a time

SAISON 1 - EPISODE 1

Can women really have sex without feelings? That's the question Carrie asks in the first episode of Sex and The City, and I find it's still relevant today. Is it possible that in 2026, women and men could be on the same wavelength sexually?

If we summarize the history of society, a man can desire and sleep with a woman without the slightest feeling, while conversely, a woman needs to feel something. Can we call bullshit on that?

When I look around me—at the discussions on social media, podcasts, my friends... Everything would lead one to believe that men and women are now indeed equals in this area.

But, with all due respect to my feminist friends, I still wonder if it's really true. Okay, for example, I'm a fan of Samantha, a fan of her free spirit, whether in her sex life, her independence, her way of owning who she is (a fan of her style, of course), but I could never help but think with every episode: Is she sincere in what she says, or was it a hidden fear of commitment or simply of love?

#trauma #shrink

It's true, society has evolved. Women have power, money, and freedom. They travel with their girlfriends, fill their closets, sign up for apps, and delete them. They have the right to sleep with whomever they want, whenever they want, without feelings—with a man, a woman, both at the same time, over FaceTime, via text...

But is that what they really desire?

Despite all these possibilities, I get the impression that we find ourselves a bit lost. I believe that behind all of this, there is a need for love. A need that is often devalued, somewhat mocked, shameful, that we have trouble admitting because, indeed, it's not always easy to confess to needing love. So, responding to a need for love versus a physical desire isn't so simple, and more importantly, must we always make a choice?

Perhaps a woman does need feelings to sleep with a guy, but surely the definition of 'feeling' here isn't the conventional one. It's more of a vibe that we can enjoy feeling, one that gets us a little hooked in the moment but doesn't make us blind. If the story isn't meant to continue, it will end, but at least it will have been lived to the fullest, however short it may have been.

And on their side, I believe men have evolved. Of course, sex can be instinctively experienced more casually for them, but the sexual impulse exists in everyone. And you won't make me believe that in 2026, with Insta, Tiktok, and the whole crew, it's just a "one and done" and that's it. No doubt a guy can sleep with a woman without feelings, but I'm sure that deep down, he'll always take something away from it. At the very least, he'll always have the memory, or a story.

What about woman/woman and man/man relationships, are they different? Meaning, I still have a lot of work to do.

A presto,

Rebecca