Single, not single

SAISON 1 - ÉPISODE 3

Is there a kind of cold war between singles and couples?

In the opening scene of this episode, Carrie tells a couple of friends a super spicy story that happened to her last week. Couples love single‑people drama — it’s like a fun little Saturday‑night amusement they enjoy in small doses.

As a single person, have you ever told a story to a group of couples, made everyone laugh, and then caught that look? You know, the slightly pitying look that basically says, “Cute… but she has no idea what she’s missing! Being in love is everything, blah blah blah.” #😇

Or when you talk about a crush and that “this‑time‑it’s‑the‑one” moment (maybe a bit exaggerated, sure), have you ever sensed confusion — or even boredom — from your couple‑friends? It’s wild how being single after 30 suddenly becomes a fashion faux‑pas. Before 30, being a single woman is fun, empowering, bold, fiery.

After 30? Bye courage, hello pity and suspicion. We like to say society has evolved, that women can do whatever they want, but honestly… some old habits die hard. The pressure is real, and people seem to expect anyone “of marriage age” to settle down already.

But is it really necessary to see a single woman as a threat or an enemy? According to Miranda, absolutely: singles are treated like lepers — or sluts. Same with Samantha: she says single women scare people because they can sleep with whoever they want, whenever they want.

So what about today? Are we actually more chill, or did all your now‑married friends disappear from the radar to only hang out with other couples? Why not accept each person’s choices and situation? Samantha doesn’t want a relationship, Carrie is experimenting, and Charlotte is dreaming of Prince Charming.

Is there really a bad guy in all this?

And if there is a cold war, what exactly are couples afraid of? Singles’ freedom? Their lightness (especially the sexual one)? Or simply their strong sense of “I”? Because in a couple, it’s usually the “we” that takes over, sometimes to the point of forgetting yourself — which, ironically, is part of falling in love. Meanwhile, single people nurture their “self” to eventually find their “other.” You see what I mean.

What’s different in 2026 is that Gen Z couples are breaking the old rules and setting their own vibe: vacations, nights out, and group hangs must include both the partner and the single friends. Maybe that’s the real secret to a healthy relationship — surrounding yourself with singles. One doesn’t go without the other, and in the end, it still makes a duo.

And what about throuples? Meaning… I clearly still have work to do.

A presto,

Rebecca